http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1X_IAaNPWKU&feature=related

Can only be followed by this...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CTPLUcQAjk

Dennis Hof launches....an alien brothel

Otherwise entitled: Tchaikovsky's timeless Christmas ballet performed by pole dancers (w/video showcasing traditional & non-traditional versions of "The Nutcracker") Some content Not safe for work

I kid you not.

(title taken from elsewhere, not my doing.)

Is it really so hard to define?"

Apparently so. From the article:

"One hundred percent of the men in the 18 to 29 age group called penile-vaginal intercourse with a condom sex, but only 82 percent of the men in the 65 and up age group considered sex with a condom sex."

So...like, if you have sex with a condom and the chick is a virgin...does that mean she's still a virgin after?

Cause, you know...it isn't *SEX*.

I'd like to know what it is...

46. Styx's Storm - Lora Leigh
47. Navarro's Promise - Lora Leigh
48. Primal Bonds - Jennifer Ashley
49. The Calling - Jennifer Ashley
50. The Darkening - Jennifer Ashley
51. The Awakening - Jennifer Ashley
52. The Gathering - Jennifer Ashley
53. The Redeeming - Jennifer Ashley
54. The Crossing - Jennifer Ashley
55. The Haunting - Jennifer Ashley
56. The Reckoning - Jennifer Ashley

I find myself in the unenviable position of being so cheesed off at some members of our dear, dear community that it's making me want to write.

But, not just any type of writing. Oh, no....

I want to make my main male character a very aggressive dominant and the main female the woman he wants to conquer.

Did I mention he's a sadist?

Yeah.

And that's the normal part.

I then want to take these characters and push every damn hot button I read about when it comes to behavior. "ZOMG RED FLAG" and then turn it so it's a positive just to watch them crawl all over themselve, full of angst and feeling conflicted...

OMG, that's so wrong!
OMG, that's so hot!
OMG! That's abusive, only...it's not!

Wait...it can't be both!

ANd I so very, very, very much want to write something that violates each and every one of our touted SSC/RACK rules just for the reaction of "OMG! This person should never write anything about kink! they have no clue about how it works! this is all wrong!"

And then just sit back and laugh.

I'm thinking that I may have been wrong all these years about having an inner sadist...

37. Dark Lover - J.R. Ward
38. Lover Eternal - J.R. Ward
39. Lover Awakened - J.R. Ward
40. Lover Revealed - J.R. Ward
41. Lover Unbound - J.R. Ward
42. Lover Enshrined - J.R. Ward
43. Lover Avenged - J.R. Ward
44. Lover Mine - J.R. Ward
45. Lover Unleashed - J.R. Ward

Always wanting to be helpful.

http://www.graydancer.com/femaleriggerguide.html

Please watch first.

Then, please watch after that.

Boogity boogity boogity, AMEN!

*snert*

31. Dark Slayer - Christine Feehan
32. Lure of the Wicked - Karina Cooper
33. Wicked Deeds on a Winter's Night
34. Ruthless Game - Christine Feehan
35. Pride Mates - Jennifer Ashley
36. Sleep no More - Susan Crandall

27. Phantom in the Night - Sherrilyn Kenyon with Dianna Love
28. Touch of Darkness - Christina Dodd
29. The Dragon Earl - Jade Lee
30. Halfway to the Grave - Jeaniene Frost

Desire - SABURAU a few workshop notes 2 Comments
Note by TTT about 1 year ago
WA: 和 harmony, peace, balance
EN: 縁 (1) fate; destiny (2) relationship; bond; link; connection; affinity;
GIRI: 義理 obligation, duty, honor, decency, courtesy; debt of gratitude; social obligation;
Engi - interconnectedness of all living beings
The origin of the word samurai comes from saburau which stems from sa + morapu - (1) to wait for a chance; to wait upon (2) to serve by one's side, to attend
omotenashi - お持て成し
Service (hospitality, reception, entertainment, trust, pleasure) that is unobtrusive, meticulous, attentive, and sincere; expressing respect and appreciation for the general and specific needs (of your guest)
zanshin - awareness; relaxed alertness
mushin - mind/no-mind, not fixed, occupied or pre-occupied
shoshin - beginner's mind; openness, eagerness
fudoshin - immovable heart, equanimity, unperturbed
the book - BUDOSHOSHINSHU The Warrior's Primer -
by Daidoji Yuzan, translated by William Scott Wilson
honor - duty - loyalty - humility - obedience - self-control - strength - refinement
eightfold noble path
RIGHT view - intention - speech - action - livelihood - effort - mindfulness - concentration
CONSIDERATIONS
• ground rules when interacting with another person - context, conceptions & preconceptions
• honest consideration and communication
• goals / rewards / motivation (service for the sake of service, sense of purpose, sense of place, recognition, acknowledgment, fun, romance, playfulness, ritual, structure)
• manners/civility - proper greetings, acknowledgment
• mindful attentiveness (awareness and preparation)
• deference (not only to others but to the overall goals)
• flexibility
• self-discipline
• sacrifice
• gratitude
• service as a state of being as opposed to doing
• stepping away from the idea of "what's in it for me" and toward the idea of best possible outcomes for every participant
• balance between interdependency & co-dependency
• being mindful of power dynamics
• service not necessarily a submissive act (consensual v. non-consensual)

23. Bonded by Blood - Laurie London
24. Infinity - Sherilyn Kenyon
25. A Brush of Darkness - Allison Pang
26. Dust to Dust - Heather Graham

I've been running into a lot of calls for submissions and writing contests of late, so I'm taking that as a hint. I think it's time to try this on for size again and see where it goes. So. In the back of the brain has been perking an idea. This morning, I was able to actually flesh out, in a very odd manner, some of the world background. I've got a couple of characters in mind, but they're still sort of ghostlike and amorphous. Go me.

War in Heaven

Sons of God (200) rebelled led by Azazel and his lieutenants: Semjaza, Armaros, Baraquiel, Kokabel, Ezekiel, Araquiel, Shamsiel, Sariel. They fell from heaven to bring light to the world of men, their beloveds. They saw the coming war in heaven and wished to protect humanity. As they taught the sons and daughters of men, the found the daughters fair and took them as mates, binding them by blood and desire and gave them the dark gift. Immortal life to be lived at the sides of their mates by sharing a blood bond.

God, in his eternal power, went mad with the interference with his creations for he was a jealous god who required submission from all beings. He sent those angels still faithful and bound to him to destroy the Fallen and the sons and daughters of men. The leaders he bound after destroying their mates and those children not spirited away with the other grigori when they fled the land of Caanan.

It also discusses the teaching of humans by the fallen angels chiefly Azâzêl:
"And Azâzêl taught men to make swords, and knives, and shields, and breastplates, and made known to them the metals of the earth and the art of working them, and bracelets, and ornaments, and the use of antimony, and the beautifying of the eyelids, and all kinds of costly stones, and all colouring tinctures. And there arose much godlessness, and they committed fornication, and they were led astray, and became corrupt in all their ways. Semjâzâ taught enchantments, and root-cuttings, Armârôs the resolving of enchantments, Barâqîjâl, taught astrology, Kôkabêl the constellations, Ezêqêêl the knowledge of the clouds, Araqiêl the signs of the earth, Shamsiêl the signs of the sun, and Sariêl the course of the moon."

God commands Raphael to imprison Azâzêl:
"the Lord said to Raphael: 'Bind Azâzêl hand and foot, and cast him into the darkness: and make an opening in the desert, which is in Dûdâêl (Gods Kettle/Crucible/Cauldron), and cast him therein. And place upon him rough and jagged rocks, and cover him with darkness, and let him abide there for ever, and cover his face that he may not see light. And on the day of the great judgement he shall be cast into the fire. And heal the earth which the angels have corrupted, and proclaim the healing of the earth, that they may heal the plague, and that all the children of men may not perish through all the secret things that the Watchers have disclosed and have taught their sons. And the whole earth has been corrupted through the works that were taught by Azâzêl: to him ascribe all sin."

God gave Gabriel instructions concerning the Nephilim and the imprisonment of the fallen angels:
"And to Gabriel said the Lord: 'Proceed against the biters and the reprobates, and against the children of fornication: and destroy [the children of fornication and] the children of the Watchers from amongst men [and cause them to go forth]: send them one against the other that they may destroy each other in battle"

The Lord commands Michael to bind the fallen angels.
"And the Lord said unto Michael: 'Go, bind Semjâzâ and his associates who have united themselves with women so as to have defiled themselves with them in all their uncleanness. 12. And when their sons have slain one another, and they have seen the destruction of their beloved ones, bind them fast for seventy generations in the valleys of the earth, till the day of their judgement and of their consummation, till the judgement that is for ever and ever is consummated. 13. In those days they shall be led off to the abyss of fire: (and) to the torment and the prison in which they shall be confined for ever. And whosoever shall be condemned and destroyed will from thenceforth be bound together with them to the end of all generations."


The unbound Grigori fled to Egypt where they continued to hide, live, and interfere with God’s creations. Though they were now branded as demons in many parts of the world, they found pockets of men who would serve and protect. In exchange, the Grigori continued to teach and protect as they could.

As with all wars, though, eventually they were forced to flee again, this time to Slavic Europe where they became the feared vampire. There they remained, hunted still, but able to survive. As generations passed and offspring grew, aged, and died, the offspring of the Sons of God and Daughters of Man began to meet their own destinies.

The Darkkin, those who could not resist the lure of blood, were born, becoming the hated and feared vampires of myth and legend. The Dark Gift was perverted from a thing of beauty and communion to the curse of the dead, risen, immortal, but unutterably evil.

Still, there were those who remained true to the Dark Gift and temples were created to empower it and keep it alive. Temples dedicated to love and lust and union as the Fallen had brought it to earth many generations past.

The War lay dormant for generations, held in the minds of man by those religions that followed their God, promoted the belief that the Fallen were demons and ruled in Hell, that man would join them should they not choose to walk the path of the Righteous, the path of God. When the Cataclysm came and the world split, a prophet rose from the ruins of the Church who claimed to speak the Word of God. The Word came to him in the form of an angel who guided him on the Path of the Righteous, the path of retribution. The time had come for the believers to hunt down the wicked, the fallen, the unbelievers.

And so, once more, the War in Heaven rages, playing out on the lands of Men.

Normally, I'm a little reticent to plug people I know...but, this looks like a really awesome project and I'm going to help out a friend of a friend. So.

Aether Dancer

This is what looks to be a very promising new Steampunk webseries that's trying to get off the ground and get some support and backing. If you're into the genre at all, or just feel like being a cool person, pass it around and let's see what kind of push we can get for jadedeath

If you haven't figured out by now, I'm one of those evil Lady Gaga fans...and I have to share this

Born This Way done by a classical group.




And, a link to the group that does the performance

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75FHaGG4a08&feature=player_embedded#at=68 if the embed doesn't work above.

Books read:

15. Daughter of the Blood - Anne Bishop
16. Heir to the Shadows - Anne Bishop
17. Queen of the Darkness - Anne Bishop
18. Working for the Devil - Lilith Saintcrow
19. Dead Man Rising - Lilith Saintcrow
20. The Devil's Right Hand - Lilith Saintcrow
21. Saint City Sinners - Lilith Saintcrow
22. To Hell and Back - Lilith Saintcrow

Coming Soon

23. Bonded by Blood - Laurie London
24. The Dragon Earl - Jade Lee
25 A Brush of Darkness - Allison Pang

I admit it. I laughed. A lot. It's funny and sort of sad at the same time.

Guy Baldwin Keynote speech at NLA Houston

Honestly, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this. There are parts that I heavily agree with...and there are parts, particularly towards the end, that I strongly disagree with. I think I'll be contemplating this for quite some time to come.

Books read to Date:

1. Wolfe's Hope - Lora Leigh
2. Jacob's Faith - Lora Leigh
3. Aiden's Charity - Lora Leigh
4. In a Wolf's Embrace - Lora Leigh
5. Dawn's Awakening - Lora Leigh
6. A Jaguar's Kiss - Lora Leigh
7. Mercury's War - Lora Leigh
8. Christmas Heat - Lora Leigh
9. Coyote's Mate - Lora Leigh
10. Bengal's Heart - Lora Leigh
11. A Christmas kiss - Lora Leigh
12. Lion's Heat - Lora Leigh
13. Styx's Storm - Lora Leigh
14. Blood of the Wicked - Karina Cooper

Currently Reading

15. Daughter of the Blood - Anne Bishop
16. Heir to the Shadows - Anne Bishop
17. Queen of the Darkness - Anne Bishop

Coming Soon

18. Bonded by Blood - Laurie London
19. The Dragon Earl - Jade Lee
20. A Brush of Darkness - Allison Pang
21. Working for the Devil - Lilith Saintcrow
22. Dead Man Rising - Lilith Saintcrow
23. The Devil's Right Hand - Lilith Saintcrow
24. Saint City Sinners - Lilith Saintcrow
25. To Hell and Back - Lilith Saintcrow

...what's the one piece of advice you'd give to people who are

30 Days of Kink
Click the ‘day’ to view the topic.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Day 2: List your kinks.

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

Taken from This site

Does a Master have the right to order his slave to either have/abort a child?

Given the situation in which the Master does own the slave's body (not all do, I know), what are the limits on this?

I keep seeing the following:

"It's not possible for you to own her body, so it's not you're right." (women to the men)
"A woman's body/decision is inviolate."
"That isn't part of slavery. She still has the right to make that decision. You can't take it away."

Really?

If the proposition is "I am a slave owned by X, lock, stock, barrel, and uterus", then it logically follows that he controls what I do or don't do. I've given up the right to retain anything, unless I've specifically negotiated it before the collar gets locked on.


The kicker for me?

"However, that control does not extend, IMO, to a life the slave may be carrying. That child did not ask to be born. He has not right asking her to terminate the life of an innocent child. That's going to far. The ultimate decision should remain with the woman."

If the decision is to abort...what difference does it make to the fetus *WHO* made the decision?

Really? Only a woman can decide that? She somehow knows better because....why is that again?

I can give up my rights to another person...except these over here cause no one in their right mind would do that.

Cause everyone *KNOWS* that no woman would *EVER* go that far or give up those rights.

And you people over there with the breeding fantasies and the beliefs that you have the right to impregnate your slave or order that abortion? You're just wrong.

Really?

Don't like it? Ok. That's cool. Don't associate with them.

But you don't get the right to tell them what they can or cannot do or negotiate or give away.

"I think it is a tought job being a Dom/Domme. They are to guide, not criticize; should ALWAYS hold their cool; not display Sub-like emotions"

What is this...I don't even...

what the fucking fuck?

Sub-like emotions?

Did I suddenly enter the Twilight Zone where submissives and dominants suddenly have mutually exclusive emotions?

Oh. I forgot.

Dominants must be uber-stoic, never lose their temper, never show anything but that stern, emotionless face while submissives are tantrum throwing children who must be dressed down all the time for their outbursts.

What.

Ever.

...perhaps you might want to reevaluate your bullshit position.

No. Really.

Ganked from rmjwell

Finally heard from the drs (via his friend/family)

They're not letting him wake up until tomorrow. He's still on a ventilator.

They got a late start because the anesthetic slowed his breathing to the point it stopped and they had to change it. They had to remove a small part of his liver because the cancer had gotten into it. And about 6 inches of the small intestine. It was very invasive and he's still in rough shape.

But.

He's in his room and out of recovery. Hopefully he'll be able to call tomorrow like he had planned. I expected them to keep him sedated through the night.

he's going to be hurting. But it's done.

D's surgery started at 8:30 central and it took them til almost 9:45 to get him under and stabilized. They changed surgical teams twice throughout the day. He's been in recovery for about 45 minutes but isn't awake yet.

I'm still waiting to hear what the drs have to say.

But...it's over. Nearly 12 hours, but its over.

D is now in surgery.

It's going to be a long, long day.

http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/False%20Religions/Wicca%20&%20Witchcraft/criss_angel.htm

I mean, I know Chris Angel is...erm..entertaining, but...really?

http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/klepto-kitty/pp1hb3n?q=Animal+Planet+cat&rel=msn&from=en-us_msnhp&form=msnrll>1=42010

O.o Thank god my cats are indoor cats.

You Scored as Experimental

(((Note: I haven't covered all aspects of BDSM in this quiz due to the length the quiz would have to be. It is sex-based because psychological profiles can be complicated and motivations for engaging in fetishes vary with couples and individuals. I have written this category as one of the alternatives because this quiz is to test inclination not a definite interest in BDSM.))) Experimentation is a great place to be. Open-mindedness when it comes to sexuality can open doors and allow you to discover things that you didn't think you would find engaging. Having such a curious attitude can help you learn more about your own sexual nature as well as the nature of others.

Experimental.................... 93%
Submissive.......................82%
Switch...........................79%
Masochist........................75%
Bondage..........................71%
Sadist...........................64%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur...........36%
Degradation Lover................29%
Dominant.........................11%
Vanilla..........................11%

http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/Sex/poeticthinker/do-you-have-an-inclination-for-bdsm/index.php

Not too far off, all in all.

http://www.restrainedelegance.com/preview/lexicon1/icons/index.php

Slave positions and some bondage ties.

...is why I love druids to death.

http://us.battle.net/wow/en/forum/topic/1869561163

We're all crazy.

Utah Army base locked to solve 'serious concern'"

Ready, set....GO!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAG39jKi0lI because it looks like the code to play it here is borked.

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Link to the fairly even keeled article regarding this incident

Link for contacting your congressmen

Secondary report link


While I think that the *option* to attend events such as these is perfectly fine, and I know that "military" and "option" don't necessarily function in tandem...this strikes me as over the top and a commanding officer that's off the deep end.

So, I ran into a reference today to the A-spot. And I'm all WTF? Being the intrepid pervert that I am, I decide to go out and do some research.

Only to find out that I may be the most difficult creature in the world to make orgasm.

First, you need to excite the clitorus. Then move down to the U-spot, but careful! It's sensitive. Bets to touch lightly or with lip or tongue. Maybe a penis if you're careful.

BUT WE'RE NOT DONE YET!

In order to give her a truly shattering orgasm, you *THEN* need to stimulate the A-spot and the G-spot.

Fuck.

Just stick a partridge in a pear tree in mah hooch and do it all at once.

Gawd.

Ten Lies About Sadomasochism by Melissa Farley
— Media Watch

Sinister Wisdom #50, Summer/Fall 1993 pages 29-37
1. Pain is pleasure; humiliation is enjoyable; bondage is liberation.
2. Sadomasochism is love and trust, not domination and annihilation.
3. Sadomasochism is not racist and anti Semitic even though we “act” like slave owners and enslaved Africans, Nazis and persecuted Jews.
4. Sadomasochism is consensual; no one gets hurt if they don’t want to get hurt. No one has died from sadomasochistic “scenes.”
5. Sadomasochism is only about sex. It doesn’t extend into the rest of the relationship.
6. Sadomasochistic pornography has no relationship to the sadomasochistic society we live in. “If it feels good, go with it.” “We create our own sexuality.”
7. Lesbians “into sadomasochism” are feminists, devoted to women, and a women-only lesbian community. Lesbian pornography is “by women, for women.”
8. Since lesbians are superior to men, we can “play” with sadomasochism in a liberating way that heterosexuals can not.
9. Reenacting abuse heals abuse. Sadomasochism heals emotional wounds from childhood sexual assault.
10. Sadomasochism is political dissent. It is progressive and even “transgressive” in that it breaks the rules of the dominant sexual ideology.

You can read the "reasoning" behind these 10 items here.

While it's true that the article points at lesbian sadomasochists in particular, I'm sure we can all agree that it's a short hop to broadbrushing everyone...because the lesbian sadomasochists should "know better" because they're claiming to be feminists and they're somehow "above all that".

(Please note, I don't think that the lesbians themselves consider themselves superior...I do, however, think that many feminists take the approach that they're somehow "more enlightened" than those other people over there that they disagree with.)

1. Pain is pleasure; humiliation is enjoyable; bondage is liberation.

No. Pain fucking hurts. I may *like* pain, but it still fucking hurts. I don't enjoy humiliation at all, so that's right out. I do find being tied up rather freeing, however.

I take issue with her whole women are taught that love is suffering argument as a whole. Love can be a risk. It can hurt you. But we're not *taught* to suffer for love. People are, however, human and they make mistakes. And sometimes those hurt. Big deal. It's part of life. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, move on.

"We are taught to believe that pain, suffering, and humiliation are challenges which we should look forward to because they teach us the important things in life. After that, what can’t they do to us, what can’t they get us acclimated to?"

I'd like to know who was taught these things? I certainly wasn't. None of my friends were, either. I was raised to fight to win when necessary, not to back down, to meet challenges head on and to excel at whatever I did. I don't recall anyone teaching me to allow people to heap humiliation and pain on me, to keep quiet, or to take it lying down. Maybe my upbringing was weird. But it didn't seem so out of line with the bulk of my male *and* female friends. Hell, some of the most competitive people in the school were the women that I swam with. Up to and including accepting weight lifting competitions with the varsity football players (and beating them).

These women that I grew up with...they don't look anything at all like what this picture paints.

Oh. But wait. These aren't *submissive* women. Well. Except for me. Sometimes. Did I mention I came in third in those weight competitions just behind the two other women in first and second?

2. Sadomasochism is love and trust, not domination and annihilation.

The author here is using emotionally laden words to get a point across. None of these concepts *has* to have a negative connotation applied. "Annihilation" could just as easily be interpreted as subspace that causes one to float out and join the larger universal consciousness for a while, never mind that annihilation is permanent and wiitwd, while mind altering for a while, doesn't exactly destroy us utterly, permanently.

For me, as a submissive woman, to let go to that extent requires an excessive amount of love and trust. It doesn't happen with J. Random Dom off the street. It doesn't even happy with J Personal Friend whom I've known for years unless the chemistry, trust, and love is there. Some people are unable to approach that level of connection for whatever reason and, apparently, feel the need to rip down those people that can.

3. Sadomasochism is not racist and anti Semitic even though we “act” like slave owners and enslaved Africans, Nazis and persecuted Jews.

We do? Looking back over the last...oh...20ish years, I would be hard pressed to point, even in my own life, much less someone else's, when I've behaved in such a manner. In my time, I've been a pampered pet, a loved and cherished object, and under the will of another person, but I've never been treated like an enslaved plantation slave or a Jew in a concentration camp.

Unless we only look at the superficial toys and only at the surface of actions. Have I been tied to a cross, restrained, and beaten? Sure. In between strokes, though, I've been caressed, kissed, touched, soothed, fingered, occasionally fucked, and generally made much of...oh, and rarely pressed passed what my body and mind could accept or cope with.

I seem to recall that in the negative situations listed above, *NONE* of that behavior was present, nor was the concern for the body, mind, and health of the slave tied to whatever for their beating.

Nazis did not care for their "pet Jews". They tossed them into camps and either killed them outright or worked them until they dropped and then killed them. They didn't care for the mental health and well being of those they considered animals. While you *might* make the argument for slave owners, in some cases, in the American south, it's doubtful that the majority of slaveowners cared for their slaves as anything more than large investments that were similar to their prized stud animals or work animals.

At its core, the fundamental argument here is "I don't like it and I'm going to argue that it's evil by using emotionally laden language to paint a picture that may or may not reflect the situation's reality." Anyone can do that, in an attempt to gloss over the fact that their argument is empty of logic.

You know...I was going to go on and write about all of these points.

However, I've decided it's really not worth my time. To those that agree with me, it's preaching to the choir. To those that think like the author...no amount of discussion will change their minds.

This, in the end, is why I don't label myself a feminist. Because it is people like this that are just as concerned with controlling my sexual expression into "acceptable" and "unacceptable" categories and channels that I've been fighting with as a submissive woman since I first started down this path.

And yes, I understand the difference between political and personal, and that feminism is a political movement. However, the topics often under discussion are taken out of the political and applied to the personal in an order to silence what activists see as "negative to the movement".

"It's ok if you do it behind closed doors, just don't let anyone *SEE* what you're doing, because you'll make them think that it's ok and that feminism is a crock."

No.

I will not.

I will be me.

Out in the open. Out where I *choose* to be what I am.

And if you don't like it?

Suck it up, buttercup.